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By: Christine Joy M. Juntilla

Christine Joy M. Juntilla — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 02:53:12 +0000

Problems are still part of this world. We will never be detached with them, and vice versa. And so we have to deal with them, and yeah, dealt with others. I’d honestly say that my problems were I thought, can only be seen in movies. Until they happened- to me. Couple of years ago, I had to undergone this really hard sacrifice for myself, and for my dearest siblings that could eliminate our family’s expenses, and that problem would be my biggest trial during my study. The decision was made–I had to stop from schooling, so that my younger sis could continue her college days which has just started for one semester then.

Just when I thought I’ve contributed enough with that matter, I was so wrong. My parents, they started to be cold with each other, and “marriage conflicts” entered our family. Up until today, it seems that they don’t know each other.. and accompanied with other serious matters ..

Solutions made weren’t easy for me, for us. I have to stay strong, still, to serve as at least, an inspiration for my sisters. I cried, and prayed- a lot.. I know I can’t handle problems well, I have to accept and believe that I’d come this far, and I will continue to stand still, because I so love them.

In short, I don’t take them directly, because my case was not that easy to find solutions right away. I’m diverting it with doing things I love and like, that will somehow ease the burden of my problems and find ways to escape them even for the short time. Now I’m taking the biggest step so far in my life, the Graduation. It’ll all start here.^_^

By: Czarina A. Miraflor

Czarina A. Miraflor — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 07:27:50 +0000

I am a straightforward person so every time I encounter a conflict whether just being irritable to the weather when it’s raining or if I am sweating too much because it’s summer, I make a solution right away to lessen the amount of stress it is effecting. So like getting an umbrella, or bathing 3 times a day if that would comfort me then that is what I do. Same as when I am in a more difficult situation such as worrying about meeting my goals which is getting a job right away hopefully after graduation; It is actually an effect of the pressure I gave to myself because I am already 26 and I don’t want to be dependent anymore in my parents financially. So I directly make solutions to it by applying on line to save time, and attending interviews to prospective companies that possibly may help me attain my career goals as well as give my own service or contribution to that particular company

By: Janice C. Rodriguez

Janice C. Rodriguez — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 16:04:15 +0000

God gave us problems and trials to be able to learn from it, to be stronger and more mature individual, and above all, to still remember our faith on Him. He would never give us a problem that we could not solve. and He would always be there to guide us on the decisions we’re going to make in able for us to surpass the problem we’re facing.

As a teenager, what’s really bothering me right now is the way my parents treat me. It’s as if I could not make it on my own. They don’t trust me in so many things. They always see the wrong things I’ ve done. Ignoring my positive characteristics and abilities. They don’t want me reasoning out when I did something wrong. All they know is that they’re doing what’s best for me. they don’t consider how would I feel when they decide for something i don’t really want. They’re manipulating me as if I m a robot. They always compare. They want me to be someone I m not.

My problem is how would i tell them that they’re being too much. How their being so strict becomes a burden that almost affect my studies. How could I say to them that it really hurts me not having their trust…How hard it is being pulled down by someone you expect to give you encouragements, cheer you when you’re down or even celebrate when you achieve something.
They always tell me to open up to them..to tell them if I have problems… But how could I tell them that my real problem is them? That they don’t understand me…

I could not consider my problem as a indirect problem alone. And my first step to solve my this problem is to be more understanding and be patient.

By: Morales, Sean Ace R.

Morales, Sean Ace R. — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 15:39:32 +0000

I guess the problem that frustrate me before is when I get a failing grade even though it was a long time I still remember it because I always think that it has a factor when it comes to finding job as a bad record and it was a first time to me to have failed grade that’s why I keep thinking it.

I guess my problem is direct control problem because I’m the only one who mostly affected and I voluntary forgot this problem and I’m the one also who find the best solution and now I can handle my problem than before.

And I think the solution that I made to forgot this problem is to stop thinking this problem because I learned that I’m just wasting my time thinking unchangeable things because when I keep thinking this problem nothing will happen to me I just give myself another problem and it will not change anymore. Past is past that’s why I learn to accept the mistake I’ve done before and try not to do it anymore.

By: Deronia, Rassan Ella V.

Deronia, Rassan Ella V. — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 15:24:06 +0000

The problem i have right now is about my parents. They were always complaining about our financial status that it gets to be too boring to my ear. They keep on bugging me on getting a well paid stable job to be able to help them, knowing that I am only a fresh graduating student. Though I want to practice my field I am forced to apply on call centers that are well paid as we all know. It is sad on my part because I think I would enjoy more working in Psychology inclined institutions but for now I have no other choice. of course i really wanted to help them and it’s my responsibility as their daughter to give them what they need. my point is that i don’t like much the idea of frustrating me to have a well paid job though i know i cannot accomplish it right away. i don’t want to be tired of staying awake just to complete grave yard shifts and i am not comfortable of staying up so late. Maybe later on I would be granted on what I really want. I am not questioning if they care for my dream or not, what I am trying to say is that, can I decide for myself even for this little event in my life? Because I think even if I am not earning that much I can still help them in our everyday needs.

I think my problem is indirect because I am only affected by my parent’s problem. it is a controlled problem because at some point, maybe i can approach my parents and have a talk about the said matter.

The first step I am going to take is to understand and reconsider the problem first. Maybe I don’t get the right thing that my parents are trying to establish, maybe I have to hear their side of the story and they also have to hear mine. Maybe I have to look on both sides before I decide what path am I going to take and I know it won’t take me overnight. I have to think it over and give myself time to reconsider the other side of the story. And maybe they were just overwhelmed that after 4 long years at last I could help them.

By: Busa, Marian Gianine S.

Busa, Marian Gianine S. — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 13:33:59 +0000

We will soon be graduates of Bachelor of Science Major in Psychology. Most of our instructors and professors are expecting us to be future professionals that will be practicing our majors and utilizing what we have learned. That was also my dream and goal, to see myself wearing corporate attire inside the corporate world.
But what frustrates and bother me now is, if I could possibly reach that goal or dream. It’s not because I am not capable of having a good job but because I was expected to help my parents handle our business since we are in the phase of improving and expanding our business by branching out. Twas flattering that my parents trust me that I can be able to supervise and/or handle our business. I also appreciate the mere fact that I was the only child being entrusted by our parents. Its just that i also wanted to experience applying for a job, utilizing my skills and improving it in a field I have chosen, also to be able to earn my money and help my family financially from my own job. But I think I am still young that there were still many opportunities awaits me whether what to prioritize first.

In this case, since it was a matter of making decision, I would consider it as a direct control problem. I was at the state of making a choice or decision on what to prioritize first. So what ever might happen, i will be responsible for it.

In making my first step, maybe I should consider where I am comfortable at. Because I know to myself that I can’t function well if I am unease and out of focus from what I am doing if there is something bothering me. Second, I should have my time plan to be able to know my limitations-in short to be subjective. Last, to be responsible enough to handle my decisions, to make sure that no wrong decisions made.

By: FELICIANO, SARAH AJNE T.

FELICIANO, SARAH AJNE T. — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 10:20:25 +0000

I really don’t know if there would be problems that frustrate me at all. Because, you should be responsible in the things that you do whether it is really upset you or not. That’s life whether your down or your up. The things that frustrate me will be the things that I really don’t want to happen. It makes me coward to face it because the consequences will always be there. The word problem thinks me a lot; problems can make you more strength, sometimes it can make you left behind.

I think my problems that frustrates me, of course when I got incomplete to my major subject which is Filipino Psychology I really don’t know why my instructor gave me incomplete. It is direct problem; the fist step that I did is Be Proactive: Principles of Personal Choice.

When I confront him he says that I did not take my final examination with him. I said to him that I took my exam he sign my permit so there’s no question about it but he says that he did not check my final examination. So I took another exam for the completion of my grades. I passed it to him and he says that it he will the one now to submit my grades to Administration to record it. But I was shock and really angry when I’m going to enroll for my Fourth year 1st semester. I can’t now confront my instructor because he resigned at MCU. I have no option but to take that subject again because I did not passed it and I got 5 in that subject but I compensate it when I take that subject again I got 1.5.

Now I don’t have a problems with my studies and it feels good when you are going to graduate in all the things that happened whether it is give satisfaction or not. It is really depends on you, how you handle the situation whether you give up or face it.

By: VILLAREAL, MARY CAY P

VILLAREAL, MARY CAY P — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 15:13:06 +0000

SINCE THIS QUESTION WAS GIVEN.
IT GAVE ME A HARD TIME THINKING OF A SPECIFIC
PROBLEM TO SHARE.BUT I CAN’T THINK OF ANYTHING. IT’S NOT THAT I
NEVER ENCOUNTERED PROBLEMS, BUT THERE ARE TIMES
THAT I DON’T CONSIDER A SITUATION AS A PROBLEM.
I DON’T KNOW WHEN SOMETHING’S SERIOUS ENOUGH TO SPEND
TIME THINKING ABOUT. MOST OF THE TIME, I JUST LET THINGS PASS.
AND MAYBE, THAT’S MY PROBLEM. NOW THAT I AM GETTING CLOSE TO GRADUATION, I AM AWARE THAT THE NEW WORLD THAT AWAITS ME AFTER THAT DAY IS SOMETHING THAT NEEDS A MORE MATURE THINKING. I WANTED TO WORK
AND SHARE RESPONSIBLITIES FOR MY FAMILY BUT I BELIEVE THAT MY
TOO CAREFREE ATTITUDE WILL NOT HELP ME WHEN MY BOSS DUES ME A 24 HOUR
PROJECT. UNLIKE SCHOOL, THIS IS MORE SERIOUS. I NEED TO HAVE A CLEAR
VISION OF MY PRIORITIES, AND I NEED TO LEARN HOW TO WEIGH THINGS
SO THAT I CAN FOCUS ON THOSE THAT NEEDS MY ATTENTION THE MOST.
OBVIOUSLY, I HAVE A DIRECT CONTROL OVER THIS PROBLEM AND I CAN HELP MYSELF
BY CHANGING MY BEHAVIOR. AND THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT I AM PLANNING TO DO.

By: Annabelle Raymundo

Annabelle Raymundo — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 13:16:32 +0000

Among the problems I have in my life right now, what I find the most frustrating is the most basic and the foremost problem that I think I should set straight right now — what to do after the chapter of my college life ends. At times, I still want to study and go to Med school. But a thought of another couple of years in school again just makes me doubt my commitment to this thought. Don’t get me wrong. Its just like this – I have a dream, but I am not sure if I would be able to reach it. Then there are times that I want to work right after graduation so that I could finally help my family and to be able to prove myself to the world. But same as the former, there’s a part of me saying that I should just rest for a while before commiting myself to another tiring journey. To sum my emotions up regarding this matter, its just that, there are numeorus choices ahead of me, but I can’t decide on what I would pursue and follow among all these choices that I have.

There’s a famous quote saying that life is a matter of choices. I guess what I’m really afraid of is the thought that sooner or later, after everything is too late for me to clean it up, I would realize right then and there that what I want after all is the other choice that I didn’t took.

Through the course of my life, I have made stupid choices. At some point, I choose wrong people to trust and befriend. I choose wrong paths that didn’t do me no good. I choose wrong direction in my life that end up being so wrong that I regret what I did. Perhaps this thought is a factor why I am undecided on what to do after I graduated.

Given this point of view, this problem of mine can be controlled directly. Direct control over problems is caused by our own behavior and attitude. In this case, its my attitude that causes my problem and I have to come up with a decision that I would most likely would not be able to regret later on. I have to modify my attitude and beliefs regarding decision making so that I would now be able to come up with plans and course of actions on what I will do after graduation. (:

By: Dela Cruz, Margie A

Dela Cruz, Margie A — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 10:04:02 +0000

for all the years that i lived..my main problem is my family how they treat me as their daugther. when i was a child I am a lola’s girl. i always look forward to see my lola everyday. but when she died everything change. i felt the rejection of my own family. i felt that they dont need me even with my achievement they are not proud of, so for me i dont give an effort to get some achievement. im stuck on it. when i was so mad a shout to my mother and said “kailangan ko rin bang magpakamaty para mapansin at mahalin nyo”. my mother cried, when i reach a college ive learne to be indipendenten and manage money wisly and our business but then our business was gone. so now ive learned how to be indipendent for them to show that ive grown without them but deep inside i was only a girl who needs her family. so everytime i had a conflict with my friends i cryed and cryed beacause they are my source of strong for me to move on my life.
i think it was a no control problem beacuse up to still now i cant handle it well

the first step i take is i try not to depend on them emotionally so cant hurt my self,.and move on to my life..because i cant change everything..